Now, people have been throwing around the term "gay is the new black" lately, meaning that gay people are the new black people, the new civil rights fight. But I wanna talk about something else. Gay is the new black the way pink is the new black, or sometimes green is the new black, or blue is the new black. I'm talking
fashion terms here.
Is anyone else sick of seeing their sexual orientation treated about the same way as crocs or skinny jeans? Girls kissing other girls the same way they might carry a clutch bag - as an
accessory.
Popping up all over the place are articles about a "new trend" of girls kissing girls. As if this is just a new fad, not something that has been around for millenia, not something that is going to continue forever. People are just trying on the gay, the way they might try on a silkscreen tee, but when it goes out of style, they're free to donate it to Goodwill.
Straight people kissing the same sex for fun is like a Presbyterian wearing a Yarmulke for fun. It isn't there to be fun for you. Take it off!
Despite gay rights becoming more and more prominent and publicized, we're seeing fewer and fewer gay people on TV these days, and more Katy Perrys. I fear it's because gay,
real gayness, is sooooooo 2003. Faux-bisexuality is the new black.
People who are
actually bisexual aren't the ones I'm talking about. I'm not talking about girls feeling freer to express their actual sexual orientation. I'm talking about people who use it when it pleases them (or pleases boys), but when it comes to dealing with the actual
consequences of being gay, (you know, the hard stuff, like coming out, getting bullied, or having family members disown you), they can peel that t-shirt off and pretend they never wore it.
I fear networks are saying "We've already done lesbians. Let's do schizophrenics this season." As if including gay people in a show would be like dressing a character in ugg boots - so unstylish! How could we ever have worn those things?
For LGBT people,
real LGBT people, this is not something we can take off, throw in the laundry hamper, and decide later if we want to put it back on again. It's not a trend to us. It's not something for straight people to use as a fashion accessory, or something to spice up a story without giving any depth to it. It's not a shallow, stylish thing. It's a deep, ingrained part of our lives.
So please, straight people, take off the "tee shirt of gayness" and retire it. And know that it was never meant to be worn by you. But also know that it isn't going away just because you've stopped wearing it. It might go "out of style", but it's never going away. We're here,
we're queer, and we're not going anywhere.